Coping With Still Birth

About 3,500 babies in the UK are stillborn each year. For women and their families it can be a very difficult time.
Babies described as stillborn die after 24 weeks of pregnancy, but before the birth. They either die in the womb (intra-uterine death) or during labour (intra-partum death), but will have shown no signs of life after delivery. The risk of stillbirth is higher in women aged over 35 years old, in women with pre-existing medical conditions and in those who smoke. Plus, being pregnant with multiples also increases the risk.
Other causes include:
- Congenital malformations.
- Very premature birth.
- Ante-partum haemorrhaging, when the placenta separates before it should do.
- Pre-eclampsia.
- Rhesus incompatibility.
- Birth trauma.
- Obstetric cholestasis.
- Pre-existing medical conditions, such as diabetes.
- Infections.
- Immunological disorders.
Coping After the Birth
After the birth, you’re likely to be distressed and grieving. You’ll be in emotional turmoil – numb, shocked, angry, sad, depressed or full of disbelief that it could have happened.Your body will feel like it’s been through labour and your breasts will be producing milk, which is hard to cope with. It may be the last thing on your mind, but creating memories of your baby whilst you have time after the birth just helps some people. For example:
- Make sure you ask to hold your baby, for as long as you want to.
- Some people like to dress their baby in the clothes they’d bought ready.
- Take hand or footprints to keep.
- Keep a lock of hair.
Long Term Coping
The feelings of emotional turmoil continue on a longer term basis, as the effects of a stillbirth are the same as when a loved one dies. Not everyone may understand and may assume you’ll ‘get over it’ quickly, but it’s not something that can be recovered from quickly – if at all. As with any form of grief, the grieving process takes time and everyone differs in how they cope with it.Whilst some people find it better to try and get on with normal life, for others it’s the last thing they can do. It can be difficult seeing other pregnant women or women with babies, as it brings back the reality of what you’ve lost out on.
Many people find talking about their baby and experiences can help. Sometimes friends and family find it difficult to know how or what to say to support you, so it’s worth considering seeing a counsellor or someone who knows all about stillbirth. Alternatively, joining a support group for families affected by stillbirth can be beneficial, as you’ll feel less out on a limb by being in touch with others who know what you’ve gone through.
The impact of stillbirth never leaves you, but over time it will hopefully become easier to accept. By being sure you’ve got access to support during the difficult times, and retain memories of your baby, you’ll gradually be able to cope with the situation over the longer term.
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